The pain in a relationship comes from trying to force someone to do something they don’t want to do. You are not here to change others. Accept that you can allow them to be as they are, to believe as they do. The only person you can effectively change is yourself. In changing the way you relate to others you in effect change the way they relate to you because you have upset the balance in the way you interacted with them previously. By accepting others as they are, you allow them to grow and to learn for themselves. If you can’t tolerate their behavior, consider whether or not you really want to continue in the relationship, assuming they may never change. 

We all deserve to be loved the way we want to be loved. The choice is yours.